I found this tidbit while leafing through the book, Don't Sweat The Small Stuff . . . And It's All Small Stuff by Richard Carlson, PH.D. I reprinted the passage in its entirety. Read below:
Fill Your Life with Love
I don't know anyone who doesn't want a life filled with love. In order for this to happen, the effort must start within us. Rather than waiting for other people to provide the love we desire, "we" must must be a vision and a source of love. We must tap into our own loving-kindness in order to set an example for others to follow suit.
It has been said that "the shortest distance between two points is an intention." This is certainly true with regard to a life filled with love. The starting point or foundation of a life filled with love is the desire and commitment to be a source of love. Our attitude, choices, acts of kindness, and willingness to be the first to reach out will take us toward this goal.
The next time you find yourself frustrated at the lack of love in your own life or at the lack of love in the world, try an experiment. Forget about the world and other people for a few minutes. Instead, look into your own heart. Can you become a source of greater love? Can you think loving thoughts for yourself and others? Can you extend these loving thoughts outward toward the rest of the world -- even to people whom you feel don't deserve it?
By opening your heart to the possibility of greater love, and by making yourself a source of love (rather than getting love) as a top priority, you will be taking an important step in getting the love you desire. You'll also discover something truly remarkable. The more love you give, the more you will receive. As you put more emphasis on being a loving person, which is something you can control -- and less emphasis on receiving love, which is something you can't control -- you'll find that you have plenty of love in your life. Soon you'll discover one of the greatest secrets in the world: Love is its own reward.
So instead of me being so bitter about love, I'm going to try this experiment and become the source of love. I have to turn this pain that I have deep inside of me into positive energy. I can't walk around all day with a screw face.
But don't get it twisted . . . I'm still on the paper chase.
Just getting stronger everyday . . .
But damn I miss her.